How to Set Up (And Actually Achieve!) Your Family and Financial Goals

Today we’ll go over key steps on how to make and achieve your big family financial goals for next year! 

Set Your Family Up for Big Wins

As 2021 winds down, now is a great time to set up some pieces with your finances so you can knock things out of the ballpark in 2022. 

Last week I went into how we’ve done year end reviews. They’ve been a wonderful way for us to get a snapshot of the progress we made and identify areas where we may want to adjust. 

Most of the numbers reviewed are automated. There are some fantastic options out there like Personal Capital, Mint, Tiller, and You Need a Budget that can pull the numbers from your accounts into one neat dashboard. 

However a year end review is just that – a review. If we want to level up for the next year, we have to have some blueprint or plan. 

Here’s where it’s key for us to create our family financial goals. They give us a guide on how to allocate or prioritize our money for the year. 

Today I want to walk you through some critical parts of that process so you can craft a game plan for next year and beyond. 

In this episode, we’re going to look at how you can tackle some major hurdles families have with creating and reaching their financial goals. We’ll discuss:

  • Creating better family and financial goals by taking the three most popular money goals families set and turning them into SMART goals
  • Crafting a plan so you develop key habits that make it easier to hit your goals
  • Finding time to adopt these new habits and systems

Are you ready? Let’s get started!

Key Resources to Help You Change Your Habits

Looking to reset a few things to get some family and financial wins this year?  Here are some fantastic resources to help you! 

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Creating Better Family and Financial Goals

As I mentioned last week, one of the ways we sabotage ourselves with money goals is how we make them. 

The top financial goals people make for the year are:

  1. Save more
  2. Pay down debt
  3. Spend less

It makes sense, depending on where you are on your financial journey. 

As you can see, these particular goals fail in a few ways. They’re really vague which can lead to some problems.

How will you know you’ve accomplished it? How are you going to save/pay down?

Instead you want to make SMART goals. As a quick review, SMART is an acronym on how you can effectively frame your goals. 

A smart goal is specific, measurable, attainable, results, focus, and time base.

What do I mean by that? 

  • Specific: You don’t want to save more. You want to set up your emergency fund or your travel fund.
  • Measurable: You want to have $5,000 in your savings account or you need three months of essential expenses. 
  • Attainable: This is not a moon shot, but it’s something you can actually accomplished (provided you put the work in)
  • Results: What’s the result of you hitting your goal? What personal or family win will you have?
  • Time-Based: When do you want to accomplish this? This is handy because you can then work backward and set up how much you need to save or pay off each month. 

The point of it is that you have a mini-game plan already set up for how you’re going to actually achieve that goal. 

Another benefit to laying out SMART goals is that you get a sense of whether or not you're working on too many things. Very quickly, you’ll notice the numbers aren’t working out. 

You can then decide to either push back a deadline for a goal or two. 

Let’s take those three financial goals and turn them into SMART ones. 

  • Save more -> We want to have $7,000 set aside in our emergency fund by October 1.
  • Pay down debt -> We want to eliminate our store credit card debt of $2,700 by May 31.
  • Spend less -> We want to cut back our monthly eating out expenses from $300 to $100 by July 31. 

When you have time, sit down and discuss the goals that you’d like to accomplish and turn them into smart goals!  

Better Habits and Systems

Having goals is fantastic and one of the best ways you can achieve your goals is by making sure that your habits are shifted in that direction.

I admit that's easier said than done, but it is possible.

Before we can talk about shifting habits. Let's just take a quick step back and define what a habit is.

In essence, a habit is something that you do almost automatically. And if you had to break it down, There are three key components to it. The queue. The routine and the reward

Whether we see ourselves this way or not, the truth is many of us are ready habit forming machines.

Don't believe me? Looking at your day, you may find that many of the routines that you do on a daily basis or a weekly basis. Uh, our habits.

In fact, a study was done at duke university and researchers there found that over 40% of the activities we do on a daily basis. Is a habit. It is possible to change and adjust your habits.

Based on your goals and your circumstances.

The key is working on those three components of a habit. The cue routine and the reward. So with the queue, that's your trigger for the behavior.

For many of us time, is that trigger? Your alarm goes off, you get up. And you get started on your routine.

Location can also be a trigger as you are logging into the office, whether that's at home or you had to commute for it, you may have a routine already set up, you log in and you check your email.

The next part is the routine, which is the actual habit that you're doing. In this case, like we mentioned getting up, getting dressed for work or checking your email.

Finally, there's a reward, which is your payoff for accomplishing that habit.

To effectively change those habits. You have to change those components in it.

In his book, the power of habit, New York times, reporter Charles Duhigg gave an example of the afternoon snack at work.

Instead of going for the processed foods or whatever's in the vending machine, you swap out that stack for something else could be apple and peanut butter, some other fresh fruits, whatever you prefer.

Here you're subtly shifting that happen because the queue is still the same. It's the afternoon you want to get up? You want to socialize? And have a snack. The habit is different because now you're choosing something different, something better for your health.

But then the reward is also the same. You still get to catch up with your colleagues. And so that habit shift feels subtle but it can make a huge difference over time.

So that's a high level view of how you can shift and change your habits.

Now a challenge that a lot of people have. Is that we want to fix it. All right. Maybe we have several goals that we want to achieve, not just with finances, but with our health around the house. This overwhelm and lack of making progress can make you quit.

One of the best ways you can avoid burnout. Is by choosing and focusing on one, maybe two habits at a time. Once you get those habits into place then you can move on to the next one.

So which one or two goals should you focus on? With your goal, what are the one or two habits that can have a significant impact on that?

This ties back into why we do those reviews. With our finances we can see, is there a pattern? Is there an area that we need a little bit of extra effort on to make that progress. Is it us eating out too much? Is it a matter of us needing to bring up our income? Or could we optimize our expenses so we can knock out a certain debt?

These discussions we have doing our reviews give us a better and clearer picture of which habits would have a significant impact.

As you're reviewing your goals, see if you can break down a little bit further. What task or habits you need to have to make it easier to be successful with this goal?

Laying these pieces in place helps you build a system to push through some of the difficulties that will probably come up during the year and make it more likely that you'll reach your goals.

Finding More Time for Your Goals

It would be wonderful if we all could have an infinite time to work on our goals. The reality is we have to find and in many cases create time to do the work and make progress. 

As a work from home parent with two kids doing remote learning this year, it’s practically a necessity to have some rhythm or system in place so I can get stuff done. 

Here’s what has been critical help along the way. 

Time Blocking/Bullet Journal

I need a visual representation of my schedule and for me. While I do have digital reminders set up for a few items, I’ve found having a paper copy works best. Specifically, I like to use a hybrid of the bullet journal/time blocking. 

I’ll include links to resources if you want to do a deep dive, but for me the big benefit is how it helps me focus during the day and allows me to handle my goals in bite sized chunks.  

Define Your MIT

Like we mentioned with habits, some are more impactful than others. Not everything that comes up in your day is going to move the needle with your family and financial goals. 

It is very easy to get bogged down with urgent tasks that pop up, but don’t really add any value. It’s crucial to set aside time and plan things out so that you’re taking care of the most important tasks. Because I’m a morning person, I try to work those early into the day. 

Use the GAP Method

One method I found helpful with planning my schedule is GAP. It’s something I picked up from entrepreneur and productivity expert Matt Ragland

GAP stands for Goals, Action, Protect and how it works is….well, here’s how Matt explains it.

The first thing to do is to preview your week. I use the acronym gap to plan my week and that is specifying, what are my goals for this week?

The action steps that support those goals and then when do I need to protect time, block time in order to make sure that I have the time to take action on those tasks?

Design Your Most Productive Week Ever

I love this because you’re breaking down your goal into pieces. Let’s say you want to get back to a healthier weight. 

You identified some tasks that can make a big difference including, an area you need to improve – prepping your meals. 

You can set aside mornings or the evening before to prepare your lunch ahead of time. It’s been blocked out. 

You may want to make it more enjoyable by playing your favorite podcast in the background while you assemble your meals. It’s a doable way to make progress on your big goals. 

Organize Your Environment and Schedule

Finally, I’ve discovered that when I set up my environment properly, things go so much more smoothly. 

Working out? Go and have your clothes and equipment ready.

Writing? Have journal or laptop setup.

Going on your money date? Pull the numbers ahead of time using an app or spreadsheet.

There's this quote that's attributed to Bruce Lee that I think it captures what I hope you get out of this episode.

Absorb what is useful, discard what is useless and add what is specifically your own.

– Bruce Lee

I want you to try the tips that make the most sense for you and incorporate it into your own system.

At the end of the day, it's not just about hitting those goals, but also having time to learn, grow and do the things you enjoy!

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How to Do a Year End Review with Your Family’s Financial Goals

Get a peek into how we did with our goals for this year and see how you can do your year review and set yourself up for an incredible 2022!

Why You Need to Do a Year-End Review with Your Money

It's November, aka the time of the year where I usually start winding down. 

As you may or may not know, I take December off from the podcast to recharge and rest things. We also have our anniversary then.

With those things in mind, these last two episodes of the season are focused on helping you set things up for a fantastic year in 2022 and beyond.

Besides our monthly money review, one of the things we do is a year end review. It’s a way for us to review the numbers, celebrate wins, and see what we need to work on. 

We then take that information and use it to plan out the next year. 

Today I want to walk you through the process. We’ll go through our goals we made for the year, finding the money to reach them, and whether we’re on track with them or not.

Next week, we’ll then look at how to create goals in a way so you can make progress. 

Are you ready? Let’s get started!

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Our 2021 Financial Goals

Let's start off with our financial goals that we made this year. They were three big ones.

  1. Build up our brokerage account
  2. Pay down our mortgage
  3. Replacing and fixing the windows in our house.

Right off the bat. You may have noticed a couple things.

The first is these goals will probably take a big chunk of money to reach and you're right.

One thing I want to be absolutely clear on is we would not even consider these goals until we had our financial foundation in place.

These goals reflect that we're further along in our financial journey.

Some of the first goals and steps we took was making sure that:

  • we had an emergency fund that was fully padded.
  • we paid off our unnecessary debts
  • we were setting aside money for retirement

We're grateful to be in this position, but it did take work upfront so I want to be clear about that.

Even with those pieces in place, though, we knew this year, we definitely have to hustle. If we're going to meet these goals.

The second thing you may have noticed is that these goals are vague.

They're missing some key numbers. So let's fill these in and talk about why I prefer to include details with our goals.

One of the big things that has helped us achieve our goals is how we framed them. And we like to make our goals smart. And in case you're unfamiliar with the term, it's an acronym. To help you remember key things you need to include when making your goals.

A smart goal is specific, measurable, attainable, results, focus, and time base.

Let me do a quick summary of each of those.

Let's start with being specific. This is a big mistake that a lot of us make myself included is that we start off the year with a goal of I'm going to save more or I'm going to pay down debt. But a specific goal would be. I'm going to put aside 5%. To save in our emergency fund or I'm going to pay.

An extra $50 towards the credit card debt. Being specific helps you start framing it in more concrete terms.

The second is your goal should be measurable. How do you know when you've hit your goal? If you're saving more, is there a specific Mount you're saving to. Or if you're paying off debt, how much do you want to pay off by the end of the month or the year? However you decide to do the timeline. The reason you want to do this is you want to track your progress. If you're tracking your progress, you're more likely to hit your goal.

And then the third piece of this is attainable. Now I've seen some people translate this acronym and use it for ambitious, but here's the thing. If this is your first time working with goals. You need to build and develop that habit first.

You don't have to make them super simple, but if you make them attainable, You're more likely to have a win, and that's going to encourage you to continue on your financial journey.

The next piece is result focus and this includes a bit about your why behind the goal. You're paying off debt. That's fantastic. But why?

What options become available once you hit that goal? For example, if you're paying off your credit card and high-interest debts. Are you freeing up money? So that you can travel more as a family. Or are you trying to reduce your monthly expenses? So you can cut back on your hours at work. So you have more time with your family.

Being clear on the result that you're trying to achieve can help you stay motivated when things get tough.

Finally being time-based and this goes back to framing it so that you can build a plan out of this by setting a deadline, you can work backward and break down the steps you need to take and make sure that you're hitting those milestones along the way.

Switching over to smart goals has definitely been very helpful for us. And it's easier for me to track our progress. And see where we have to make adjustments early on. Either with the goal or with the deadline

Switching over to smart goals has definitely been very helpful for us and it's easier for me to track our progress. We can see where we have to make adjustments fairly early on either with the goal, the deadline, or how we're going to achieve it.

If you noticed, they’re missing some key numbers. Let’s fill these in and why we prefer to include details to make SMART goals.  

Creating SMART Goals

If you've listened to the podcast or known me for a bit, you know that I'm a fan of SMART goals.

For those unfamiliar with SMART goals, here are the key things you need to know when making them.

  • Specific: Choose a specific goal. Don’t say ’save more’, but instead choose ‘put aside 5% of our paychecks into savings for our emergency fund.’
  • Measurable: How do you know when you reached your goal? If you are saving an emergency fund up, consider setting aside 3-6 months of your living expenses in the account and track your progress.
  • Attainable: I;’ve seen some people use ambitious, but here’s the thing – if this is your first time working with goals, you need to build that habit first. It's better to work on a few goals at a time so you don’t feel overwhelmed. Be gazelle intense on the ones you have. 
  • Result focused: This includes a bit of your why behind the goal. Make sure your goal is something you can do and truly believe in. Have a plan of action that you can sustain.
  • Time-Based: By setting a deadline, you can work backward and break down the steps you need to take and make those your milestones along the way.

With SMART goals, you’re not just listing what you want to do but you’re framing your goals specifically which includes a timeline and a measurable amount.  

Let’s break down these goals one by one as well as explain why they all have the same deadline.

Build up Brokerage Account

We opened our brokerage account last spring during the national lockdown. (This is what nerds do when they’re stuck at home!)

Before then pretty much – okay everything we invested went into our retirement accounts, the 401(k) and IRAs. There’s just one catch – those accounts are for retirement. 

With the idea of financial independence, you’re going to need a stash set aside for those in between years when you plan to retire or wind down until you’re 59 ½, which is when you can access your IRA without penalty.  

After discussing our options we’re settling on a combination of investments in the market and at real estate. 

We started the first half of that plan with the brokerage account. Next year we’ll give more attention to real estate. 

Our SMART goal for the year was to build up our brokerage account to $50k by the end of year.

Pay Down Our Mortgage

Our goal is pretty straightforward: we're looking to take our thirty year mortgage and pay it off in ten. 

Whenever we picture this goal of being financially free or independent, one thing we agreed on is that it wouldn’t include a mortgage payment. 

With five years down, we have five years left on our self imposed clock. That means we need to set aside $20k/year to knock out our mortgage. 

Not only will that shave twenty years, but we’ll save around $X in interest payments. 

Is it a stretch? Yes, but it’s doable. Again, it’s about finding that balance of hitting that goal and enjoying the time we have now at a sustainable rate. 

Our SMART goal for the year was to pay down our mortgage to under $90K by the end of the year.

By the way, if you’re thinking about paying the mortgage off early, you should check out the Mortgage Free Masterplan. It’s what we use to run the numbers and track our progress. 

Andrew, from Family Money Plan created it to make it easier for you to create a pay off plan that aligns with your family’s goals. Just grab it at simplifyandenjoy.com/mortgageFreePlan

Replace the Windows

Our beautiful ranch is sixty years old and those windows appeared to be original. 

Our SMART goal for the year was to replace the five windows on the main level that were breaking down. Using the estimate we got from a few companies in the area, we saw that they could cost between $X and $X. 

Hopefully you can see how important it is to frame your goals. 

Planning is good, but it’s just one piece of the puzzle, let's get into how to move that plan forward into action. 

Our adjusted SMART goal is replacing our windows by the end of the year.

Finding Money for Our Goals

Now that you see our goals and how much we’re putting towards them, the next question is, where is this money coming from? 

Our Old Debt Payments Are Now Working For Us

First off, a huge reason we can set aside money for these goals is because we carry no other debts. The mortgage is that last one.

That means the payments that we're making for the car and student loans are now being directed towards saving, investing in giving.

Having gone through this journey for years, I can understand that sometimes when you're dealing with significant amounts of debts, it seems overwhelming.

So if that's where you are now, please hang in there. I know it is a chore and work to go through this, but it is worth it because you can then free up your money to go towards the people and projects that really matter to you

Bake Your Goals into Your Budget

Another way we’ve been able to hit our goals is by automating our money. It started off as an easy way to make sure our bills were paid, but we now use it for other things. 

When we paid off those old debts, for example, we immediately changed our automated payments and now had them go towards first savings and then investing. 

Just quickly going back to that idea of having a deadline for the smart goal. Let's say that we needed to save $10,000 by the end of the year.

Knowing that, we look at the numbers. It means we have to allocate an extra 833 a month. Or if we were trying to save 5,000 for the year, that would be an extra 416 a month.

If you already have room in your budget and you see that I do have that amount of money I can put towards the goal. Great. Just go ahead and schedule those transfers or payments.

If there's a gap, then go ahead and schedule what you can do.

Let's take that $833 a month. Let's say, you know, for sure you can do an extra 500 a month. Go ahead and put that on your automated transfers or payment system.

You can then work on either building up your payment or adjusting your timeline. But you have something going in towards that goal and you're going to be making progress.

Allocating Extra Income

Finally, the last piece of the puzzle is allocating extra income. And that can mean a variety of different things.

At the beginning of our financial journey, it was extra side hustle money we brought in. It was tax refunds. It was getting rebates that we sent in.

The income that we brought in varied greatly, depending on what it was, but we use that money towards our goal.

This past year we took advantage of whatever bonuses were earned. And tax credits that we qualified for being parents of two kids.

Since we already planned our financial budget for the year and we were comfortable for it. We use whatever extra income we had to go towards those three goals.

So hopefully you can see that it took a lot of different pieces to come together for us to work towards our goals and our plans, but it also meant that if something broke down we weren't completely going to fail with our goals.

How Are We Doing?

All right we went over the goals and the process of us working towards those goals. So how are we doing?

Replacing the windows on the main floor was the first goal that we hit. We actually placed our order around end of January, beginning of February and got them installed in may. There was a significant delay with the manufacturing, but that has been accomplished.

We're really happy with the windows we got and have ordered more, which hopefully should be coming this week or next.

As for the mortgage, it will be down to the wire. It looks like we will be able to hit it by the middle of next month.

Finally, we have the brokerage account. While we've made some great progress. I don't think we're going to hit that mark, but we are going to be fairly close. It looks like if all things continue the way they are, we'll hit our goal in February of 2022.

There you have it. That's a general overview review of our financial goals and the progress we made.

The next step we do is what's worked. I think we did a great job with three allocating transfers to the savings and the brokerage.

On the other hand, we had some unexpected windfalls, like those tax credits that we're not going to plan or budget for in 2022.

Hopefully, as you can see that a year review doesn't have to be just the numbers. You're also going to be looking at the systems that you have in place, whether that's the automatic transfers, contributions or payments. If it's working, you continue that. If it's not, you can see exactly what needs to be adjusted. It could be a matter of optimizing your expenses or increasing your income.

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Family and Finances: How to Deal with Awkward Money Chats

Today we’re going to look at three common and awkward money chats families have around money  and how you can tackle them together! 

How to Come Together with Awkward Money Chats

Marriage and money isn't always easy. Chances are the two of you have different personalities and approaches to finances.

Those differences can be a wonderful thing as the two of you can lean on each other's strengths and shore up your weaknesses, but finding your financial footing as a couple isn't automatic. If you don't have some way to work on it these arguments can hurt your marriage and money.

One of the first things you need to realize about why couples fight and argue over money is how frequently it's actually not about the money.

Seriously.

From personal experience, writing and speaking about this for over a decade, the most common reasons couples fight about money is that they're not in sync with each other in either their:

  • expectations,
  • values, or
  • priorities

Usually it's a combo of them.

While the two of you, aren't always going to see eye to eye on everything –again, those differences can be fantastic -there are some ways you can work as a team to use those differences to your advantage.

Today, we're going to talk about how you can take that knowledge and untangle some awkward money conversations that can come up when you're married.

In this episode, we're going to get into situations like:

  • loaning money to your in-laws,
  • figuring out what counts as a big purchase so you don't sabotage your budget, and
  • coming clean about any secret debts that you carry.

We got a lot to cover today, so let's get started!

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What Counts as a Big Purchase?

Let's start off with a conversation couples should have fairly early on as they're creating their family financial plan and budget.

How much money do either of you have to spend before you consider that a big purchase.? And, what kind of purchase counts as something you should run by one another?

These may seem like fairly basic questions. But they're important in establishing what you expect. Out of your spinning plan and what you want from it, as well as understanding your priorities and values.

This is not about micromanaging your budget. That does not work. Actually, this is the opposite where you're open and upfront about your expectations. You are understanding where you both feel comfortable spending money on and where you would prefer to have a conversation.

One source of tension with couples is that the conflict comes from purchases that the other wasn't expecting because they felt like they had already established different priorities.

or example, if the two of you have thought of buying a house down the line, but you haven't had that conversation of how soon.

One of you could be spending more money, eating out. Making some extra purchases while the other is thinking, no, we need to be more aggressive with our savings. Because we're going to be buying a house within this timeframe.

This is why I feel so strongly that when you do your money dates and you're having these conversations. Yes, you're going to be talking about the numbers with your monthly budgets. And what to expect in the near future, but you should also look at the big picture and be clear about certain priorities.

For example, going back to buying a house. Is that something you're thinking about in the next five years or less? Or is that something down the line?

Are you thinking of starting a family, starting a business, travel financial independence.

Talk about these goals and the timelines you were thinking of having them in.

You may discover that your spouse has a different timeframe or different goals. That's normal. This is about working together to create a plan that you're both happy with.

For many of the couples I've interviewed where they achieved their goals, a big part of this was being very clear about the timelines and the goals they wanted and what those particular goals look like for them .

Your idea of a retirement, the home you want to live in, how many kids you have can vary. So knowing that on both sides allows you to create a plan that makes sense to you.

If you haven't already have these conversations with one another, because these are the building blocks that will allow you to deal with much more complicated in sometimes awkward conversations.

Should We Loan Money to Family?

Lending money to family can be an especially tough situation. No matter how objective you think you are, or you want to be emotions can run high and that's normal.

I would say in our community. That most of us would want to help. If we sought that there was an immediate or dire need. And many of us probably had to step up with the financial fallout from COVID helping our loved ones.

Sometimes, though, things are a bit… messier

What if there's a situation where you want to help but you're just at the beginning of your financial journey? You're not in a great spot yourself.

What if you have a relative, a loved one, who just isn't good with their finances and emergencies keep popping up. And you feel like you're constantly bailing them out. What do you do there? You care for them?

And at the same time, things are not clicking on the financial side. These are the types of situations where we can really stress over and if we're not on the same page, get into arguments.

This awkward situation of when to step in and loan money to family with something that Jen Hemphill had to deal with. She's an accredited financial counselor author, and the host of her dinero matters.

She discovered early on in her marriage that her husband and her had different expectations when it came to helping family out with money.

So the first time I'm like, okay, then we didn't see the money. I'm like, they haven't paid back the money. He's like, oh, I wasn't expecting that. I'm like, wait, wait a minute, wait a minute.

So that was tough. And then it happened again and our emergency savings would be depleted. And so I was having issues with that because one, we were still trying to figure out, you know, our finances and it just wasn't working.

She's not alone for most couples. This is a conversation they don't have until a family member asks for money.

So, how do you prepare for that as a couple? Here's where I think it's important to have conversations about expectations and do it in a less stressful way.

One thing that's been helpful for quite a few couples in our community he is running through these. What if scenarios?

Discuss, what would you do if you had a loved one, ask for money. Maybe it was an emergency or maybe it's a situation where they're having some financial struggles that keep coming up. What would you do then? And then also talk, what are your expectations if you loan the money out? Do you think you'll be getting it back? Are you expecting it to come back?

Or do you think that once that money is gone, it's gone.

Having these conversations before this scenario comes up. Allows you to have a less stressful, less emotional conversation. And instead gives you a clearer idea of your expectations, values, and priorities.

You can then work out a system that makes the most sense for you and your family.

After some deep heart to hearts and Jen and her husband found a plan that they were both comfortable with and supportive of.

We decided, we can set money aside on a monthly basis. We separate in a separate account. I'm such a big proponent of separate accounts.

That's the pot of money that and when because it has happened there's a need, I don't feel bad this time is giving the money because it doesn't interfere with our bills or other expenses or what we want, we're trying to achieve.

Jen Hemphill, Her Dinero Matter Creator/Host

Your decisions and plans may look very different than Jen's and that's fine. The key is that the two of you are happy with the plan that you came up with together.

Coming Clean About Secret Debts

We've discussed some pretty stressful and awkward conversations that have to be had.

Dealing with family and finances is important and you want to be on the same page for sure about that as well as your spending limits and when you need to check in with each other. With your shared goals, we want to make sure that you're reaching them together.

But there's one last situation that is very stressful and scary on both sides. It's when one of you is carrying a debt that the other doesn't know about.

It could be a debt you or they had before you got married. Or it could have started off as something small, but then snowballed into something much bigger.

Either way. It occurs more often than you think.

According to one survey by TD bank, over 40% of Americans are hiding some kind of credit card debt.

This is not only a significant problem financially, but also with your marriage. It might not seem this way. But it's a form of financial infidelity.

For the purpose of this episode, we're going to define financial infidelity as a situation where one spouse is keeping the other in the dark about finances.

Here's the tricky part. First of all, yes, there are people who are going behind their partner's backs, hiding money or sabotaging their family's finances for their own selfish purpose.

For those cases, I definitely recommend getting professional help with your situation.

You want someone with this experience to guide you through both the financial side of things? And the root of the problem, which may be something serious and significant, like a spending addiction.

However many in our community who have discovered financial infidelity in their marriage. Also find out that the root of it. Is it something malicious or sinister, but rather a breakdown of communication and their financial system.

Hopefully you seen that this beam has been playing out. We have to be clear. And transparent about our expectations, our priorities and values with one another.

I have written many times about couples and their different financial situations and how they handle their accounts. But the gist of it, I want to highlight for this episode is even if you do have a separate account, maybe it's your fun money spending account. Separate doesn't mean secret.

I believe that couples should have room in their budget so they each one of you can spend on the things that matter to you.

Talking about and acknowledging those different expenses helps your relationship and finances.

On your relationship side, you're getting a better understanding of what matters to your spouse. On the financial side, having a second pair of eyes to make sure that you're not overspending. Is also very helpful.

If you haven't already include these as a part of your money dates. Don't just talk about the family shared goals, but get to know each other better. What projects are you working on? What are some of your hobbies? This can be a great help with your marriage.

Many times, one of the biggest culprits where things get out of control is carrying credit card debt.

That's because you have this mix of ease of access for payments, separation if you have your own credit card, and the fact that they typically have higher interest rates. You put those together and it could be a recipe for a mess.

So what if you two are dealing with that situation? How can you, first of all, come clean with one another about the debts that you have? Then second, start rebuilding that trust and create a financial system together that you both feel comfortable with?

Years ago, right before they got married, Tai and Talaat from His and Her Money had to deal with this situation.

I spoke with him on an earlier episode and they were kind enough to share their story, but here's how they initially felt and reacted.

I was at the point where I was ashamed of. All of the debt that I had acquired. And here I am about to embark on a marriage, a new life, and I didn't want to bring these old bad decisions that I made into the marriage. So my thinking. Well, I just got to hustle up and try to figure out how to get rid of the debt.

And I can't tell her this because she'll look at me differently. She won't think I'm the guy that I built myself up to be. You know, when we were having these money talks, now that we're engaged, you know, I meant what I was saying. I was starting to understand money a little bit better, but the problem was I was still had to deal with my past mistakes.

They were still right there in front of me. There were still bills and bill collectors that I'm dealing with, that all that was there. Because of the decisions that I had made previously. So my thought, which was an incorrect thought was I can't tell her because she won't, she won't look at me and say, she might not marry me

Talaat McNeely

Just about three months prior to getting married, I discovered financial fidelity. I discovered that he wasn't as transparent as he should have been in, before we got married about his finances, because he was trying to handle it all.

He was trying to pay it off, pay down his entire debt before we got married.

I felt like my role came down, came crashing. You know, I felt like trust, like, oh wow. Can I trust him? Because here it is, he was not completely honest with me. I just had a lot of emotions going on.

Hey, there is debt. I didn't know about what else is going on.

Tai McNeely

Their reactions, definitely capture what a lot of couples go through when there's that realization of financial infidelity.

With Talaat, you can see that shame was a huge reason why he didn't want to come to Tai sooner and a lot of people experience that.

When we were first engaged and we shared the numbers with one another, I could see immediately that I had a lot more debt than my soon to be husband had and I did feel quite a bit of shame.

Now if you're the spouse who is just finding out about this secret debt, you may not relate, understand, or agree with what Talat is saying, but many times shame does hold us back from talking about openly our finances, especially when we feel like we could've done a better job.

So, what do you do if you're in this situation?

If you're the one that's carrying this debt and you still don't feel comfortable enough speaking with your spouse about it. Let me make a suggestion, have someone who is a neutral but respected third party joined in the conversation.

It could be a mentor that both of you respect. A financial planner who has experience working with married couples. Or now this is a new development in the financial planning field having a financial therapist who can navigate both the relationship side and the communication. As well as the numbers to help alleviate a bit of that tension and stress and give you a form for you to dispute to one another in a productive setting.

Please keep in mind if you're the one opening up about this debt is that you have to give your spouse the space and time to process this and that very well may include a period where they're angry or upset with you.

You can't skip over that part.

Going forward. It's important that you give each other that space so the two of you can work together and hopefully find a way to reconnect and reestablish that trust.

Here are a few things and choices that tie into lot made as a couple to improve their marriage and their money.

I realized, Hey, he's a good man. His money issues had nothing to do with how he treated me. He treated me like a queen like my father always taught me. So I knew that as long as we came together on one accord that, Hey, we can do this.

And if it wasn't for the fact that, as I mentioned, that I saw determination and my husband, I saw that he was willing to change. I saw habits and PAs changing. He was reading different financial books and stuff like that. It was very encouraging.

So we had a long talk and we had to lay all our cards out. We had to be completely honest with each other now, um, Some of the financial infidelity was uncovered. He had to tell me everything about his past financially sold and I had to do the same.

So once we maintain that, then we were able to work together and come up with a plan on how we can handle our finances.

I'm the one that goes through our bank accounts, whether it's daily or every other day and things like that but we both sit down and we both do the budget. We have meetings, financial meetings together. We talk about expenses that are coming up that need to get paid but far as the one that's going to the bank handling like the different transactions.

I do. One of the most important things that we did was we decided that we were in this together.

This was for sure, not an overnight process. It took seeking outside help, having regular conversations, Talaatcompletely opening up about his financial state and having a system that was transparent to both of them and they had to change their mindset and work as a team.

I want to mention that tie into law are now completely debt-free including their mortgage and they're happily running a business together.

I'll include a link in the show notes to that original interview where we go into more detail. With their process of sinking up their values and their finances.

If you haven't already please add their podcast, his and her money to your playlist, they have fantastic stories. Of their marriage, but other families as well who are building up their finances together.

Investing in your marriage definitely takes time but it is well worth it and will pay off in dividends

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Bank Better: How to Switch Your Checking and Savings Accounts

How happy are you with your current banking situation? Are you getting real value out of your checking and savings accounts? Or do you feel like you’re getting nickeled and dimed? 

Today we’ll go over how to find a better banking option and how to seamlessly move your money! 

Why It Matters Where You Bank

These are all important to your financial health and making progress on your goals, however we left the biggest piece of the puzzle last – your day to day bank accounts. 

Your check and savings accounts are the backbone to your family’s financial system, but for most of us, it's almost like an afterthought.

Much of this goes back to how we chose our accounts in the first place.

For my husband and I, with our first accounts, it was based on who we were already banking with. And at the time we had bank accounts with two of the major banks, we had opened student checking accounts.

When I say they were basic accounts, that's exactly what they were.

Honestly, we just settled with it for way too long. After getting frustrated with the horrible customer service, ridiculous fees and not seeing any real progress with our financial goals. We decided it was time to change.

We moved our money to an online bank and credit union and i have to say we are so much happier for it.

We feel that our banking partners are actually partners that they're helping us reach our financial goals faster and make our lives easier with managing our money.

So if you feel that way about your bank or credit union, fantastic.

However, there are plenty of families that feel like their banking options are hurting them rather than helping.

According to a recent Magnify Money survey, 68% of consumers are frustrated and feel like their savings isn’t growing. When you consider that 18% of those said they get less than .05% APY, it’s understandable.

What makes it worse are those minimum balances and fees added on their accounts. 

Bankrate reported that the average maintenance fee on a checking account that earns interest totaled $196.20/year

So if you’re feeling squeezed, you probably are. That doesn’t have to be the case though. 

With 2021 winding down, now is a great time to set the pieces up for you to have an incredible year in 2022.

In this episode, we’ll go over: 

  • What to look for in your next bank or credit union
  • How to move your money and switch accounts (and deal with a reluctant spouse)
  • How to set up your new accounts for your best year ever

Are you ready? 

Let’s get started! 

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How to Find a New Bank or Credit Union

Before you start comparing options, it's important to focus some time on defining what you need out of your bank accounts, your current situation and your goals.

If you're not sure where to start, let's cover some essential services you need to have.

Secure and Reliable Access

The first is secure and reliable service. You need to have access to your money when you need it.

First off, only look at banks or credit unions that are either FDIC or NCUA insured. Your money needs to be covered and protected.

Second with so many of us banking online, especially these last 18 months or so. Make sure that wherever you bank has an easy to use mobile app and site.

For example, for some of my clients where I do freelance work, I may get paid by check. In those cases, I need to have mobile deposit setup with my credit unions app.

Fantastic Customer Service

Second key area is making sure that you were bank or credit union is customer or member focus.

I know, currently the low interest rates on savings accounts aren't really helping you grow that financial cushion. However, I still noticed there is a difference with what you can get if you're willing to shop around.

Considering that we're living during these times of low interest on savings and checking accounts, it's especially annoying to hear from people in the community, getting hit with needless fees or having their banks have high minimum balances. You're not really getting much value from your accounts.

Since no one is perfect mistakes will happen. It's key to get that cleared away with great customer service.

This is an area where both of our old banks failed. We had problems with money coming out of the wrong accounts and even had a problem where someone else's credit card account was showing up when we logged in.

We immediately called in to report that so he could get fixed, but instead of working with us or explaining that they were having some technical difficulties, they denied that there was a problem.

I don't know if it was something they couldn't see on their side, whatever. Not only did that frustrate us, but it worried us about the security and privacy of our accounts.

(But it looks like we skipped some of the worst problems.)

Now you know why we left.

Keep in mind we've also had a unique opportunity with this pandemic to see what our current banker credit union is doing for their customers and members.

As members of Coastal Credit Union, we saw how they gave back to the community, to the organizations that were serving those that were hit especially hard with the pandemic.

They also made arrangements to modify loans, pause payments on credit cards, Basically work with members to keep them financially whole during this difficult time.

Competitive Rates

Finally, we want our banking partner to be competitive with rates.

We want our savings put to work by earning more. On the other side, when we got our mortgage for our current house, we wanted to get a great deal.

So there you have it. That's our list and how we rank them, but you may have a slightly different order. In different priorities and that's fine.

Remember, these bank accounts should be serving you and your family's financial goals.

Alternative Options to the Big Banks

Now that you've created your list and you know exactly what you're looking for, it becomes much easier to start comparing your options.

Many of us are familiar with the big banks. But there are three alternatives. I think you should consider when your bank hunting.

Credit Unions

Credit unions offer many of the same services as banks. You have your checking and savings accounts. You can apply for loans and mortgages and in a few cases, some credit unions offer small business accounts.

So what's the big difference between this big banks and credit unions? The main thing is how they're structured.

With a bank, they serve their shareholders and investors. When you join a credit union though, you're not only a member, but part owner.

How that translates for you is that while the bank gives their bonuses to the investors, credit unions return their surplus income to their members.

That can show up in a few different ways:

  • lower interest rates on loans.
  • lower or minimal fees with your accounts
  • higher interest rates with your savings.

We've experienced this firsthand. As you heard at the top of the show, Coastal Credit Union sponsors this podcast. However, we've been members with them for years before that happened and we have our mortgage through them.

For us, when I looked at the numbers, we're coming out ahead compared to the old banks we used. (We also had a mortgage with one of them.)

One feature we immediately noticed and appreciated was the annual member bonus. It's based on the accounts we use.

It's a nice deposit every year. It feels good to be rewarded for maintaining good financial habits.

If you're in the Raleigh Durham area, I definitely recommend checking Coastal out but even if you live outside this area, a credit union could be the right fit for you.

Community Banks

If you prefer personal service where you can go inside of a branch, community banks might be the best choice for you.

I know some families it's really a chore to deal with those automated phone systems. So having a local spot you can visit is crucial.

Instead of feeling like just an account number with some of the bigger banks, a community bank can give you that personal attention that you may prefer.

Online Banks

Years ago, there was a lot of hesitation for people to go with online, only banks. That seemed to have cleared up, especially in the past year or so.

Because online banks don't have brick and mortar branches, many of them can offer more competitive rates and benefits like low or no minimum balances on their accounts.

So if you are hunting for a better banking option, please consider those alternatives, run the numbers and find a partner that makes sense for your goals and your values.

How to Seamlessly Switch Banks or Credit Unions

While the process of switching banks or credit eons, isn't really complicated. For many families it's stressful. Again, these are our day to day accounts and much of our financial system is based on them. We want to make sure that the bills are taken out correctly, the transfers are made. As needed and payments get out on time.

With your new accounts open, let's start with outlining the steps.

The first one is map out your current system. Which accounts need to be paid and when? How much goes into savings, your retirement accounts, other investments and financial goals?

You also want to make arrangements with HR to move your paychecks so that they deposit into the new accounts. Third step is spend an evening or maybe a weekend. I don't know how many accounts you have between the two of you. And start switching over and scheduling the bills, transfers and payments with the new accounts.

And then after things are running smoothly, you made sure that everything transferred correctly. You can go ahead and close the old accounts. So that's the general overview.

Let's jump into each step and see how we can make this transition easier. The first is map out your current system. And this is something that is handy to have whether or not you're switching your bank accounts.

Having a big picture of you, of how your money is flowing gives you an idea of where you can improve and optimize.

This may be an area where having a money app. Can be incredibly helpful. Because everything is already laid out. You can dig in and drill to the transaction level to make sure that you know exactly what payment is going out and when and from which account.

The second is working with HR to make sure you have the right forms. So you can make that transition so that your payments go into the new accounts.

If you get paid every two weeks, one way you can smooth out this transition. Is waiting for a month where you get three paychecks.

They'll use that extra paycheck to open the account, put the money in. And then they start switching the deposits over. You can also time it if you're anticipating a bonus or perhaps a tax refund.

The third TIF can be a bit tedious because now you're going to be switching over, scheduling the bills, transfers and payments to the new accounts. So set aside in eating, or if you want to do it bit by bed over a weekend. Go ahead. But make this a low key evening or weekend. Order in if you have to, so you can be as relaxed as possible while you make the switch.

The last step is closing the bank accounts. And you might be wondering how long should we keep our old counts open. It really matters on how complicated your financial system is and how many accounts we're talking about. But you would want to wait at least a month to make sure everything is taken out correctly before closing. Typically, what happens if you miss a bill or two, they will contact you for the updated information.

You can also review things weekly to make sure you haven't missed anything as well.

Like I said, it's not complicated, but sometimes the process of moving things over just seems overwhelming. So breaking it up step by step makes it a lot easier.

Another snag that you can have with the switch is your spouse. If they're reluctant with making what they feel is a drastic move with your money.

One suggestion that I usually give is moving over your savings account at first. Let them see that things aren't as complicated as maybe they imagine.

You can then wait to one of those opportune times, like I mentioned, getting three paychecks a particular month or some extra income to then make the transaction with the checking account. Best wishes on this new change!

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Our Financial System That Help Us Hit CoastFI

Are you a busy family looking to make managing your money much easier?

See how we handle our money system and accounts so that we're working towards our goals even if we're bus with work or family!

Easy Way to Manage Your Money

A financial system that requires you to constantly check and worry about your money isn’t going to cut it for most families. It doesn't for us. 

With two kids, work, hobbies, and friends, we have a full life and we love it. Quite simply we see money as a tool, not the goal. It’s to help us to care for our kids and other loved ones.

So while I respect those highly detailed spreadsheets with line by line breakdowns of every cent, I save that for quarterly reviews. (If that…)

We want a simple and effective financial system.

Instead, budget monthly and do weekly checks on Fridays that usually are five minutes just to make sure everything is running smoothly. 

It took some time, but we’re grateful to have a financial system that allows us to focus on the big stuff. We love even more considering these past 18 months. 

If you’re looking to make managing your money much easier, while still hitting your family’s financial goals, this is your episode. 

Today, we’re discussing:

  • Quick overview of how our financial goals and system shifted to fit the season of life we’re in
  • What principles give the framework to our financial system so we can hit our goals
  • How to keep lifestyle inflation in check while still enjoying some fun

Are you ready? Let’s get started! 

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Building Our Financial System

Before we get into the process, I think it's crucial to talk about three key principles we do our best to follow when it comes to handling our finances.

  • Live on one income, have fun with a second.
  • Automate our transfers to achieve our goals.
  • Keep our budget flexible.

Let's break them down one by one.

Live on One Income, Have Fun with Second

If I had to nail down that one thing that has been a game changer for us with our family's financial goals. It's basing our necessary spending on one income.

Actually that was a tagline on Couple Money for a few years – Live on one income, have fun with the second.

I'd love to say that when we began our marriage, it was with this fantastic plan to hit financial independence. Honestly, we didn't even think about or know about financial independence until years later.

The whole idea of keeping our essential expenses under one income was simple. It was a necessity.

See, we met in college and when we got married, Rob had his first post-graduation job and I just started an internship. Considering the area, was actually pretty good pay, but we didn't know if it was going to last, beyond that semester so we made a decision.

We were going to base our bills on just his income. The money that I was bringing in would be used for goals like paying down debt, putting aside some into savings and yes, having some fun.

We did have some friends kind of give us a hard time for being so conservative with our money but it was the right decision for us and it did set the tone for our finances together.

Using this mindset help us grow that gap between what we were earning and what we were spending. It also gave us more options.

For example, as I was approaching graduation, I was offered a job opportunity in Raleigh. That meant of move.

Rob would have to find some new work, but because we had simplified things, we did have the savings to make the move. It took some time, but Rob found a job that he enjoys and pays well.

We didn't realize it at the time, but the timing of our move was fantastic as Raleigh had began to explode in growth and job opportunities. If we had lived close to the edge with our budget, I'm not sure we would have taken that job and we may have missed out on a great opportunity.

We were able to start off our marriage with his foundation of living on one income. But I realize for most families, it's not something that can be done overnight.

To hopefully make things easier for you. I do have an entire episode where I break down the process of how you can shift into this system.

Automate to Achieve Our Goals

The second key principle for us. As our take on a personal finance classic, pay yourself first.

Here's how it translates for us. What we do is we set our goals for the year and long-term. Then we work backwards and see how much we need to set aside each month. And then we go ahead and automate those transfers.

We take this seriously, this idea, when we say pay ourselves first. Once the direct deposit comes in the next day, the transfers start happening. When we were working on our debt, those were payments that automatically went out. We were saving an emergency fund house down payment. Vacations, whatever the goal was, the idea is as soon as that money came in, We put it to work.

Not only has that helped us pretty much stick with their schedule? Yes. There were times we need to adjust or pause our payments. But it also gave us peace of mind.

We were working towards our family's financial goals while giving attention to the people and projects that mattered the most to us.

When we were starting out, these transfers and payments were smaller. But year by year, we increased it. So now we can make a substantial dent. With paying down our mortgage. And build up our investments.

Keep Our Budget Flexible

Finally the last key principle when it comes to our financial system is keeping our budget flexible.

This is where the money dates can be really helpful because it gives us a consistent and regular time to check in with our finances. For us, we find that the monthly rhythm is best.

Initially, when you do a money date, it will feel a little bit formal because you're getting used to your system. Honestly, now they're very casual conversations where we quickly review. What happened with the finances and the accounts? And then we talk about what's upcoming through this year or maybe beyond.

If we know we have a family getaway or a trip coming up, we're going to adjust things in the month before so that we can have some extra spending cash when we're out of town.

We find that doing these monthly checkups and adjusting our budget this way makes the most sense for our family. It keeps it flexible for upcoming expenses that happen throughout the year.

It could be taking those family trips or those semi-annual life insurance payments or getting the girls ready for back to school shopping.

All these things happen throughout the year. So we need a budget that can adjust to it quickly and easily.

Setting up the system doesn't take a lot of work, but it does take time, especially if you have several accounts between the two of you.

Depending on your bank, you may find that it's not as hard as you imagine. For us, we had to make a switch to find a better banking option.

It was well worth it because now we can easily set up savings accounts for specific goals and transfers are handled very quickly.

So there you have it. Those are the three key principles that we have in place with our financial system. That's allowed us to hit coast by while still having fun. And enjoying our time as a family.

Keeping Lifestyle Inflation in Check

One of the big challenges with families is making sure that you keep it lifestyle inflation in check and we're no different with that.

Looking at your budget, you can see that it shows up in different ways. As you're earning more money, you may see that you:

  • upgrade your car or your home
  • your vacations become much fancier the destinations, much further.
  • buy more tech

It doesn't necessarily mean that getting these upgrades to your lifestyle itself is bad or is going to destroy your financial goals.

The problem happens when you're spending the money without checking in and taking a moment to ask yourself,

  • Is this aligned with the priorities?
  • Are we sacrificing more important goals for this?
  • What value are we getting out of this spending?

One example I remember of where lifestyle inflation can really harm you is when I chatted with Kevin from Financial Panther.

We were talking about how he was able to pay off $87,000 of student loan debt in less than three years.

He mentioned that he had to resist that urge as a new attorney to not upgrade his lifestyle. 'cause he wanted to get rid of the debt first. And so that's what he did.

He kept living like a college student and he took on some side hustles to increase his income to the point that he was able to knock out all that debt.

On the other hand, let's look an example of where we personally feel that spending a little extra gives us a better value.

When we are going on family trips, we do try to shop around for some good deals. With accommodations. But something we've been spending a little bit more money on. Is using Airbnbs. And when you're renting the entire place, it is not the cheapest option. Most times, but that's okay because they fill a need for us.

And give us value when we are exploring a town and we come back and the kids still have energy. They have a space where they can run around while we still relax. In the end, the vacation is about relaxing for all of us and having an Airbnb Gives us that option.

Even though we're doing extra spending in this area overall, It hasn't budged our budget that much, but we feel like we're getting a great value out of it.

So when you're looking at lifestyle inflation, Don't just look at the numbers. Look at the numbers and the value that you're getting out of that.

I am a big believer again, of having the money dates. Or budget parties, whatever you want to call it. Because these check-ins are crucial.

They help you to reflect. Yoko through different seasons of life and in those different seasons, your priorities will shift and change. Your budget should reflect that.

That's why it's so important to have a way to reflect and get a sense of where your money is moving and why. If you're happy with it, that's great. But if you need to make a change, Then it's much easier to do.

With these reflections, you may find that you have enough to take care of your needs. Have some fun. And now can put more money towards those long-term goals. That will make a big difference with your family.

It could be that you could use that money instead of upgrading your devices, that money goes into college savings. Or seed money to launch a business. Or buy a rental property, whatever your long-term goals are. Some families want to cut back on their main job. So they have more time with the kids.

You can move towards these goals much faster as you gain more control and awareness over your money.

So while I don't think all lifestyle inflation is a bad thing. If you let it get out of the control because you're not reviewing it periodically. It can damage your family's financial goals.

Again, I want you to hit that balance of enjoying your money now but making sure that you're taking care of the people. And projects that matter most to you.

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How to Optimize Your 401(k)

Today, we're going over the big questions that many families have when it comes to their 401ks. I want to show you how to maximize your contributions and your investments without a lot of hassle!

Making the Most Out of Your 401(k)

When we started our open enrollment series last week, we began by talking about this idea of big wins. We're if you focus your attention on a few key expenses. You can financially put yourselves ahead.

We really dove into answering questions about insurance, specifically health insurance since so many families see this as one of those huge expenses out of their budget. The challenge with taking care of your health insurance is making sure that you get the coverage you need at an affordable price.

From our experience in talking with others in the community. I've seen that, getting these pieces into place now can set you up for some incredible wins later. Now, usually during this time of year, I pull in experts like certified financial planners, where we dive into the nitty gritty details of the different benefits and options that may be available.

I'm very grateful for those experts who took the time to share some of their knowledge. And I will have those episodes on the homepage for the next few weeks. So that you can listen to them because much of what they said is still incredibly helpful.

Our focus last week was on insurance, but this week it's on 401ks and investments.

While you can make adjustments with your investments and contributions throughout the year. Many families choose to do it now around the same time as open enrollment, because they are sitting down together and looking at the numbers.

With that in mind, I'm going to do what we did last week which is go over these questions that I see from my side, either through discussions in the newsletter, our Facebook group, thriving families, or through those Google searches that I see when people first discover the site.

In this episode, we're going to be getting into:

the biggest mistakes couples make with their 401ks and how to avoid that.

Figuring out how much to contribute. And whether you should contribute at all when you're dealing with debt.

And what to do with your 401k when you have the limited investment options.

Are you ready? Let's get started!

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Minimalism & Financial Independence for Families

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